Hello all. My name is Rick. I am new to this club and need some advice. My wife and I are in the final legs of our divorce which up until now has been very amicable. Recently though, we currently live in Indiana, she has told me that she plans to now sell the house, as opposed to buying me out, and move, with my kids, 2 girls ages 5 and 8, to Illinois. This would only be about 30 mins away. Her entire family lives on the SW side and that’s where she would like to move for support etc.. I currently live with my parents in Chicago about 15 mins away. I’ve discussed pursuing custody with my lawyer.
I have been the primary care giver of my kids since they have been born. We always have, and continue to do everything together. He tells me my chances are about 50/50. I would buy my wife out of the house and keep the kids in their school and their nieghborhood. I do know that it would be an uphill battle because Indiana is a very mother friendly state. She is a good mom and I would have nothing on her except the fact that I do a lot more with our kids. I do know that this would cost a lot of money and my kids would have to be pulled in. I’m really torn as far as what to do. On one hand I know they belong with me and I want to go for it.
On the other hand, I don’t want to spend a lot of time and money if I’m not going to be granted custody. Myself and the kids, my wife wanted the divorce, are finally getting over all the emotional heartache that comes with something like that and I don’t want to go down that road again. Has anyone else been in this same situation before. If so, I would like to hear your advice and the adivice of anyone that can offer some. I’m really torn at what I should do. Thanks for reading this and I appreciate any feedback.