Posts By: biradmin

For the Best Interest of the Children?

It is so frustrating to see how all this situation continues to develop. I understand the political ramifications of this case; however, being a Father who is presently in a custody battle for my children, I can’t help getting absolutely frustrated with our legal system. I could possibly write 50 pages explaining my situation in

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Child support is usually based on income

As well as on time with the child. In most states, both parents income is taken into account, but in some states (I think Indiana is one), only the NCP’s income is counted. So the best legal way is to increase time with the children, and then go to court to modify the order. This

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Custody was given to her but I appealed

I’m 35/m/Illinois, My custody case for my kids lasted two years and in the end the Judge ruled for the mother. With all the information entered he felt it would be detrimental to the mother to remove the kids from her. We had two custody evaluations, one was the courts expert, the other was her

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Thanks for sharing that

I see my kids 50% of the time if not more. I just don’t want to put them in the middle of anything. The decision is really driving me crazy. It’s one of those damned if you do, damned if you don’t. My stbx and I get along good for the sake of the kids

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I hate to be the bearer of bad news

I don’t know how every judge or court view this issue but I can tell you how it worked in my own. My ex became pregnant with another mans child while still living in my house (I had a vasectomy 7 years previously). I found a handwritten letter she was in the process of writing

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I just went through the same thing

Here in California, it makes a big difference in custody matters. I am in student housing, so my stbx could not stay there if I was not there. My son’s school was just a couple of blocks away. I was the one that took him to school every day. I only work part time and

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I agree with you 100%

Hi. I agree with you 100%! My wife and I have been moving towards separation for about a year now, but we haven’t made it legal yet. We just received an offer on our home, and she put a purchase offer on a townhouse, and I am looking for an apartment. But, out of all

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Some advice

Hey, Rick…welcome to the club. I understand that you feel torn right now with your decision about what to do for your kids. You mention in your posting that one of your main concerns is spending time and money, only to not get custody of your kids in the end. It’s interesting that you put

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Need some advice

Hello all. My name is Rick. I am new to this club and need some advice. My wife and I are in the final legs of our divorce which up until now has been very amicable. Recently though, we currently live in Indiana, she has told me that she plans to now sell the house,

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Can anyone help here?

My husband has not seen his son since the first of February because his ex said the son had hockey every Sat and Sunday until April. Well, now its April, and she says hockey goes till the end of May now, Sat. and Sunday! The biggest problem is that they have no court ordered visitation.

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The situation you describe illustrates the major point

The situation you describe illustrates the major point that is often overlooked. Child support is often used as a smokescreen when what we really should be discussing is the welfare of the child. People often apparently take the position that child support and child custody are equivalent. They’re not. Since they are not the same,

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Child Support Must Be Accounted For

I think every kid deserves “reasonable” child support from the non custodial parent dad/mom. However i feel the parent receiving the child support should be required to keep record of every cent spent, including receipts. I don’t accept the fact the mother is always the best parent. I have seen to many times when just

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The unstated 1st Principles

The main problem with calculating child support seems to be the underlying assumptions (which are more basic than the ones stated previously as “first principles.”) I believe the unstated principles are as follows: Divorcing parents are not reliable. Married parents are reliable. Divorcing parents will not be able to act in the best interest of

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The end result in court today…..

Well, today the judge took my baby boy away and said to the both of us the testimonies we presented were not believable i.e. the DV incident. She did say my wife could move back to the marital APT. and that she now has temp. full custody, and I am awarded temp. unsupervised visitation, I

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You seem to have a pretty strong case

You seem to have a pretty strong case. He has full custody. In most jurisdictions, the ex will need to prove that there is some reason that custody should be changed. The longer he has custody with no child problems, the harder it will be for her to take them away. Her DV will also

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Some help needed…

Hi all, I have a question. My son is going to court soon and has a handwritten entry from his wife, it states she was very depressed and was drunk while writing it, and on her own admission confirmed a suicide attempt a few years ago. Also said she was at the same point with

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